Amanda’s Mostly Don’ts
I have been spending just about all of my free time lately getting ready for the book launch in April. Press releases, pitches, edits, post cards, postage . . . so much and so many things. Check out my new and improved web page by poking around after you read the blog. Anyway, it’s been a busy series of evenings, and I’m not quite done with my list.
Often, I am asked how I do so much, but it’s really not about what I do, it’s about what I don’t do. Yes, I do write, I do advocate, I do shoot off angry letters to people who misrepresent CHD and I shoot off nice letters to people who get it right. But there is far more I don’t do. So, here is my list of all the things I DO NOT DO that frees up just enough time for me to do what I do do.
- I don’t watch very much TV at all. Rarely, I get some Masterpiece theater or a show like Madmen or the Closer. But we’re talking less than three hours a week.
- I don’t cook – pretty much ever. Jim does that.
- I don’t do much laundry either. I have a basket of things that require delicate cycles and air drying that I own, but Jim does the rest.
- I don’t go grocery shopping, unless grabbing some bananas while mailing my promotional materials counts – no, it doesn’t. Again, that’s Jim.
- I don’t do dishes, take the kids to school, bring the kids home from school, help the kids with their homework, or get them ready for school in the morning – Jim again.
- I don’t scrapbook, craft, make cute Christmas ornament, bake, or really do much of anything Martha Stewart would commend.
I do get my kids to bed at night and get them in and out of the shower without scalding themselves. I probably do this only because Jim is so exhausted from doing all the actual work in our home. I guess the moral of my blog post is that behind every great whatever-you-are is a partner who is even greater. Thirty years ago, there is no way I could have been the person I’ve become, and thanks to my husband and all he does, I can do a lot more with the time I have.
So for any moms out there who have Jim’s list in your own lives instead of a Jim to do it for you, never, ever let me or anyone else make you feel bad for what you think I’m getting done, because there is so much that I simply don’t do. I’d feel guilty for it, but what I do do (advocacy and awareness) matters, and I am always on standby for vomit patrol and humidifier placement – I’m still a mom after all!
Thanks for sharing. I want a Jim for Christmas! My kids are grown now, so he wouldn’t have to do quite so much in the child rearing dept.
Have a wonderful Holiday:))
Jim is a wonderful husband and dad, but don’t forget that even though you don’t do everything you are a wonderful wife and mom Amanda! Paul does all our cooking and dishes at our house so Jim is not alone! (((HUGS)))
I have a Jim of my own. His name is Ted. I love him.